I finally experienced a little mild pre-wedding fear. For my case, it is not exactly fear, but rather unhappiness, a slight one.
Facing circumstances that is not within your control and I had a thought that we are living for people around us, we are making choices for people, not for ourselves.
There are so many factors to consider which ain’t under my control. Call me a selfish self-centered person, you can. All I thought was, and still is, I am the one getting married. Just for a piece of paper, I have to go through so much?! For you, or for myself?
One question, can we not hold a banquet? Shakes head. You have to. For who? For your parents.
Next question, when to hold it? We are limited by the lunar calendar of so-called the auspicious saturday. Then next, prefered school holidays?! Oh rights, maybe I can save money from my tables because most people go holiday during school holidays. Not that bad, I guess…
Well, auspicious date comes with auspicious time consideration too. And you won’t get a 24hours auspicious time in a day. So you have to choose a date with sufficient auspicious time to complete everything!
Next, what’s everything? Get the bride, tea ceremony, ROM and banquet. Gosh! Can we not have gate crash?! I am highly likely to insist on no gate-crash games!
That’s all? I doubt so. What about the many many pre-wedding gimicks?
The 过大礼 needs an auspicious date and time too.
Settling the number of tables required for banquet which got to be held for your parents sake. And you may just end up having 70% of the guests who are neither your relatives, friends or colleagues.
I just don’t like the fact that I don’t have a SAY for my own wedding.
P.S.: 1 funny thing to note for the day – The BF thought that 4-点金 is four round gold-thingy that probably costs $100+ each. He was shocked that I told him 四点金 is approximately $4-5K.